It is hard when in the midst of stress to look at your breathing and check yourself out and to remind yourself what is meaningful to you.

A mini meditation can be used on a train, sat in the office, in a moving lift to the top of a building or even sat in an airport lounge when your flight has been delayed.

One popular place is in the bathroom when life is getting a bit much or the children are over acting.

Just silently count your breathe – 1, 2, 3, and relax your body bit by bit. I like to start with my toes and move upwards in a slow manner.

After 5 breaths you can repeat in your mind the words ‘soft belly’, this is great at keeping your mind in focus.

However if you are walking just count 5 steps and then another five all over again until you start feeling calmer.

At work you may decide to be quiet sat at your desk or sat in the car, not all firms have a canteen so if that is the case try walking to a coffee shop and ‘be still’ at your table while others sat near you are engrossed in their own busy lives.

If there is any part of your body suffering or is a little tight with anxiety then focus on that part of the body and breathe the calmness to it.

If tension is in the home or work place why not breathe calmness to all by repeating everyone’s name and visualise the calm being spread around and that each person is well and happy. Do not forget to repeat the words soft neck as you do your mini meditation.

Travelling home on a bus or a train you can repeat this short but comfortable meditation, sending out relaxing thoughts can relax the space around you.

Note: to mini meditate you need to sit comfortably with your back straight or relax while walking and make good use of your breathing.

Now take begin to silently count at the end of each out breath: Inhale… exhale…then count as mentioned earlier, count one, inhale… exhale… two, inhale… exhale… three. Then start at one again. Just three breaths and back to one.

You can do these mini meditations any time, any place, just be aware of your mind and body calming you and others around you so that the stresses of living in this fast moving world can be eased.

A guide’s position or job is to lead a medium through life and at the right time, slowly bring about the realisation of the gift and position being offered to them.

When a medium decides to learn how to work with their spiritual gift and guide, it can be hard work. However, it is up to a the person to decide if they wish to work at the time a guide presents to them that they are a budding medium. It is ‘spirit law’ that a guide has to accept the decision.

Training of the human ‘senses’ is best carried out in a training circle with a medium who can give help and advice during the different stages of learning.

One of the hardest lessons when teaching a person to work with a guide is ‘trust’. It is difficult when receiving information to have enough trust in what is being given to pass the valuable information on to others.

A guide will try to present themselves slowly to their would-be medium to give them time to feel as though they know them well; in fact, humans are often surprised that guides actually have a sense of humour.

Note: If you use your own personal intuition to help with your material life, at your side will be your own personal guide helping you to move forward on the path that is most suitable for you.

Messages such as these are intended to lighten the person’s worries. However, they aren’t allowed to give advice which may interfere with decisions of a more serious nature. In these instances, a selection of important guidance is on offer to help the troubled person come to a decision.

As a medium, I am constantly being surprised by the things I hear when a person comes to my home in Cheshire for a private reading.

However, it isn’t always family who come through to give advice, it can sometimes be an angel. Angels possess a wonderful vibration which is higher than we can imagine. It can, however, be an uncomfortable visit when there is the need for emotional or material help. Anyone who is struggling with their spirituality can be given advice by an angel; all angels have the job of tending to a person’s needs whenever necessary.

On occasions, a person who books a private reading in Cheshire will not understand the forms of mediumship I use to help them move on in life; and at times, neither do I.

A medium is the channel or vessel for spirit guides, healing guides and angels to pass on advice or simply make contact with loved ones. A medium can be used to assist with rescue work or to clear a house that may still hold vibrations from previous owners who aren’t aware that they have left this material world.

My clairvoyance doesn’t mean that I am constantly seeing things. I am in control of when and where I use my gift; turning to it when I wish. The only time when a message is given to me without permission is when it is absolutely necessary for a spirit to contact me.

When I am not working, the vibrations on which I would normally work with tend not to be high enough for me to hear or see those around me. However, when I am sat across from a client in a private meeting, the situation is different; I am shown pictures and I hear voices. This is known as Clairaudience.

Unless it is a child giving me a message, which is quite rare, I personally do not have the ability to distinguish between tones. My guides and I do not have conversations every day. In fact, quite the opposite is true. When I am living in my ‘normal time’, my gift closes down. This can lead to my guides complaining that they cannot get through with urgent messages.

A medium possesses a gift which is meant to be used naturally. The gift should only be working when required; it can, otherwise, make one feel low and a little flat. Mediums will train their gift of communication as it should be used wisely; when used naively, such a gift can cause things to go wrong.

I give private readings in homes around Cheshire and the North West and while I am not a psychic, I possess the wonderful gift of Clairaudience. In a private reading, I am lucky enough to have the ability to convert this gift to the Tarot. Cards are a great tool to solve the material problems which exist in everyone’s life.

It’s important, at this point, to note that my clients make their own life decisions and it is up to them to choose what they do next.

A medium who uses this type of gift will know it involves the hearing of voices or sounds. Despite its effectiveness, this gift can interfere with a person’s home life if it is not managed well.

However, many clients do not realise that the messages are being communicated on a psychic level and some will find it easier than others to pass on the information from their own mind to their medium. Unfortunately, this can lead to clients doubting the medium’s ability. In actual fact, the whole process relies on both the medium and the client to work properly; it is very important to bear this in mind.

‘Clairaudience’ is a French term and when translated into English means clear hearing. Quite often, this gift works alongside the medium receiving visions and pictures in their mind. These images will create a fuller, vivid overall image; helping to speed up the process.

Quite often, a person who is not a medium will hear their name being called by a caring relative. There are also certain, talented musicians who have the gift of clairaudience. These cases often involve the passing of music from composers of the past.

It’s important to bear in mind that a medium will not go around giving out unwanted messages in their spare time. As with any of us, they have their own life to live here on earth and their own problems to go with it.

If you check in a thesaurus the descriptions of the words ‘psychic’ can also be found under ‘clairvoyant’ and ‘medium’. No wonder it can be confusing.

As a working medium I meet many people who wish to understand more about the work that I do and they too are in the process of making up their mind as to whether or not they would like to attend a development course.

Psychic awareness is present in all humans, especially the young.  This is the ‘knowing’ that grandma is going to telephone and in the next ten minutes, guess who calls you on the landline? Yes, grandma.

Psychic awareness is a natural gift, in general terms known as ‘telepathy or extra sensory perception.

This gift or awareness with training can become more developed, however it is no good thinking everything that pops in to your head is a message for someone near you.

One of the responsibilities that comes with any of the gifts that a medium or psychic has is to make sure before giving out any message, that the person the message is intended for actually wants to hear it from a friend or relative.

You might upset instead of enthral the recipient.

‘Clairvoyance’ is a different type of gift more commonly used by a medium like myself but some humans have a different style of ‘clear seeing’ – one that shows a situation or event that happens in the future or pictures scenes from the past.

A medium will use his or her gift of clairvoyance to describe items or situations and memories given to them from friends and family who have left this earth and passed over to another existence.

‘Clairaudience’ is when a medium listens to sound, such as speech, or a noise, and can pass the words that form to the person wishing to have a message.

Depending on the clarity of the message, a medium may only pick up only odd words or a sentence and not a paragraph about their life, which is sometimes expected from a person who has booked a private reading.

I realise that some of my would-be clients like to hear a voice on the other end of the phone, however most of my new clients try to contact me when I am in the middle of giving private readings or holding a session of Reiki.

My work has to be organised as it is not a 24-hour talk line. My clients come to have peace and quiet during their time sat with me in my home in Cheshire.

The contact form on my website is for queries of charges and confirmation of appointments and the details are stored in a professional manner ,with relevant details being forwarded to me.

The website shows my mobile number for clients who have already booked an appointment with me and who may need to call me if they have a problem that is stopping them from turning up for their appointment, or if they have lost my address details.

One of the things that came to my mind when I was writing the title of this article is the number of times I am asked about connecting with angels, usually during a private reading or when I am holding one of my meditation courses.

Guardian angels are assigned to each person. They are around you at all times when needed to help you while walking on life’s journey.

Guardian angels have not walked on the earth in physical form; they are however kind and loving, wanting the best for you, their ‘charge’.

However, they have their own personality and character and their role is to be at your side helping you as a person to get the best out of your lifetime here on earth.

Angels love to see you having fun and enjoy the music created by your laughter. Laughter is a good thing to have in one’s life.

When you are sad they will try to help by giving you a push forward to make you feel uplifted and to help you make the correct choices.

Your guardian angel is also there to give comfort at sad times; when there is a passing of a friend or relative, trying to dry the tears you shed during that period of unhappiness.

When you read this, smile to yourself and give thanks to your own personal guardian angel.

The clairvoyant gift that was bestowed upon me to use to help others has been with me for a long time now; too many years to mention.

I believe it is my duty to pass on any communications given to me from friends and family to a person who is sat in front of me.

However sometimes it can be a little difficult if the person who has passed from this world is having trouble communicating with me.

What worries a large percentage of my clients who reach out emotionally for a message when they arrive for their private reading is that their relative or friend is still suffering with their earthly painful illness or injury.

Let me reassure everyone that when a loved one passes over, their divine spirit exists and their physical body is shed, and the pain is gone.

As a working medium who has taken the time to help others, I have to let my clients know before they book an appointment that there are no guarantees that a friend or relative will have a message for them.

Friends and relatives do not come forward with a message just because you want a message from them.
It is important to remember that there are five senses that a working medium can draw upon to give a healing gift that is available to humans and animals.

The gift of clairvoyance (seeing) and clairaudience (listening to sound) exists in most cultures and has been used to bring peace to mind and body to many who have been in need of re-assurance.

In this fast moving world a medium in the UK and abroad will each use their gift and seize the opportunity to help others with both emotional and material problems.

The government has now introduced a new law which has to be told in verbal or written word that mediumship is not confirmed as a science and is for entertainment purposes.

Clairvoyants believe that when all babies are first born, boy or girl, they are psychic.
Most adults lose their psychic awareness and are not able to give others around them a clairvoyant message because their minds are too full of the problems of day to day life.

Some people are able to hang on to their mediumistic abilities and can often understand how and when things are going to occur in their life. Over time, these sensitive people begin to accept it as a normal ability.

A medium who helps others by giving them details in a private reading will have taken time to train with their guides to learn how to receive and give messages with empathy.

I am often asked about development classes and at times I do occasionally hold a small number of short psychic development courses for people who are interested in becoming mediums.

My aim is always to teach each trainee how to move forward with their individual skills, and I give them a number of spiritual guidelines. However, I do make sure that my ‘students’ know they have to work hard at developing these skills.

It is essential that everyone who attends any of my courses, whether it is for development of mediumship or meditation, understands that clairvoyancy can carry a real responsibility.

One of the seven laws of spiritualism is personal responsibility. A medium who has this wonderful gift is trained to be aware of their actions when entering into the lives of others who are suffering with emotional and material issues.

One of the first lessons that mediums should learn is to recognise that everything and everyone is made with energy: humans have to learn how to use their outgoing energy to develop psychic abilities.

If you think you could be a psychic, do you:

• know when the telephone is going to ring?
• dream that, for example, your aunt was going to visit you and she turns up in the next couple of days?
• read or see a working medium and want to learn more?

If you think this sounds like you and you are excited at the thought of being taught more about developing your psychic abilities, ask if you are able to commit to doing so. Will you be able to cope with people judging you?

A medium will be able to be more positive in their approach to letting you know more about your own personal helpers. Each person that visits a medium has their own guides whose job is to try and help in everyday decisions.

In a private reading a medium will give you the details of the choices available to you, but it is still up to you to decide what you feel your next decision should be.

When giving a person a private reading, different things can be shown to a professional medium, including colours, pictures, head and shoulder images and of course, the actual hearing of a voice.

I say a voice as some mediums can have the ability to hear a different tone – other mediums like me hear a voice with the same tone but can distinguish it more with a lighter or deeper sound.

A medium is not likely to be listening to their guides or spirit helpers all the time. They too have a normal lifestyle.

Psychics tap into their senses naturally and should only be working when the occasion demands it. However, it can be a talent or a gift that starts with a gut feeling more than using a spiritual gift.

All communication is a gift as far as I am concerned, but it should be used wisely. It is a responsibility that could go wrong, leaving a person more upset than ever.

It is hard to know how a person will interpret what is being given. I find as a medium it is best to make sure they understand that I will say exactly what is being said to me or the details I am visualising.

A medium should not alter what is being given to them as it could alter the whole meaning for the person receiving their message.

Some mediums receive visions, others are given pictures. Some mediums do not use private readings at all as they have a precognitive gift.

However, premonitions are totally different. They are like knowing what is going to happen and ten minutes or a little later it will happen, similar to a gut feeling.