Mediums who work hard to prove that friends and family who have departed from this life should recognise their clients are naturally grieving. A person who is raw with grief should consider waiting until they feel calm enough to receive a message.
A person is not dead. He or she may have left behind their physical bodies but they are now in a different dimension with a lighter, more subtle body that feels no pain. It is just that most humans are not able to see them with their physical eyesight.
It is generally thought in the world of spirit that people are still kept busy. There is no sitting on clouds and waiting around, however when they first pass to a different dimension it helps them at first if they are aware of the prayers of peace and love from their nearest and dearest.
It is wonderful for me living in Cheshire to be in a position to help a person who wishes to receive some proof that their relatives are happy and free from the pain.
However, there can be an element of disappointment at times. There is no guarantee a contact can be made with the person they are missing.
The private reading and communication could be with a distant cousin or a long lost friend, when it is a parent link they were hoping for.
I always hope the conditions or vibrations are right for the correct link to be forged; sometimes friends and family try to give messages and at times a private reading can be hard work.
Family members will often decide to swap over and I cannot use my clairvoyance gift due to only being able to receive certain vibrations, so instead I am only aware of them with the use of clairaudience.
Do not get the wrong impression though, however difficult it can be there is always an element of fun our friends and relatives in the spirit world will produce, especially if the member of the family loved to play jokes when here on earth.
One of the sad things about a private reading is at times the a person sitting across from me is so wrapped up in grief that they miss the jokes and the memories that are given to me to pass on, which is a shame.
A private reading with a member of a family or a friend requires a person to think about what is being given to them via a medium; it could be a memory from childhood or even a description of an illness that caused their passing.
Names are given as a contact, although sometimes the names are not their own but will be of a friend or relative. I have lost count the number of times I have asked a spirit contact their name only to be told that the person sitting in front of me should know who they are!